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Anxiety in relationships

Anxiety is a common emotion amongst humans, because at its core, its function is to detect threats and danger and therefore protect us. Anxiety keeps us alert. There is a very natural level of anxiety that we need - to be cautious. But then there is another level of anxiety that can debilitate us, as it becomes a disproportionate response to our environment and reality.

In a relationship, anxiety can manifest in a way that challenges the dynamics between two people, leading to many things such as communication breakdown, distance/withdrawal, sexual difficulties and more.

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Is couples therapy going to save my relationship?

Whilst couples therapy can help your relationship, you cannot lean in too much on the idea that it will "save" your relationship. It is important to be realistic of the various factors and complexities of relationship and power of therapy. Unfortunately, couples therapy is not a magic wand that can put a spell or magic dust on your relationship to save it or "fix it".

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Family issues - enmeshment trauma: family won't respect my boundaries

Enmeshment trauma (also seen as over-intimacy or excessive closeness) is a type of emotional trauma that is caused by a lack of clear and healthy boundaries in the family environment and dynamics. Over-intimacy/enmeshment can happen when boundaries (typically between a parent and child) are blurred, overly diffused or even nonexistent. This leads to the child being emotionally fused with the parent's needs, wants, feelings or identity.

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"Why am I losing sexual interest in my partner?"

Losing sexual interest/attraction towards a partner is not uncommon or abnormal. The loss of sexual interest (also seen as low sexual desire/libido) is influenced by a variety of variables that can be psychological, relational or biological. The most important thing to know is that loss of sexual desire or attraction is often a symptom — not the root problem.

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Anxiety attack - what to do?

What is an anxiety attack? You have an anxiety attack when you experience a fear or worry that comes very intensely. An anxiety attack is often building up before you experience it as an attack. People also interchangeably use panic attacks and anxiety attacks. The main difference is that certain stressors can trigger the anxiety attack, whilst a panic attack is typically sudden and unexpected. Anxiety attacks are often less intense and last longer than a panic attack.

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People pleasing - why do it?

People pleasing is constantly meeting the needs of others at the expense of one’s own needs.

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